3 Ways to Handle Anger

Occasionally, we find ourselves in situations that lead to anger. Often this is a result of the actions of others. How should a Christian deal with anger?

Do you struggle with anger? How do you react when individuals upset you? When people hurt us, it is tempting to strike back and hurt them in return—especially verbally!

Ideally, of course, we should want to resolve underlying issues so that a hostile relationship can become a peaceful one. But in some cases, people may not care that they hurt us and may not wish to reconcile. In such cases, how do we respond when we’re mistreated?

It is important that we not let our emotions or natural inclinations guide our response to what people do. We must let our reactions be governed by God’s instructions. God says that we are to “repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men” (Romans 12:17-18).

David wrote in Psalm 4:4 that we are to “be angry, and do not sin.” How is this possible? Fortunately, David gave three points in this verse and the next that help us to avoid sinning when we are angry.

1. “Meditate within your heart … and be still.” When we are angry, it is good to take some time to study, pray and meditate (Psalms 1:2; 119:15, 23, 78). Focusing on God’s will rather than our own anger or hurt will help us regain clarity and peace of mind. Meditating upon and judging our own actions according to God’s laws are ways to avoid sin when we are angry. God wills for us to be at peace with Him, with ourselves and with others. Peace is one of the fruits of the Spirit, whereas wrath is one of the works of the flesh. When we struggle with angry feelings and thoughts, these breathers offer an opportunity to come back with a more peaceful and balanced view of the situation.
2. “Offer the sacrifices of righteousness.” When we are angry, rather than saying and doing hurtful things, we need to serve God and others and strive to grow in His character. Instead of focusing on what people have done to us, we must correct our own wrongs and grow in the character of Christ, who forgave even those responsible for His death. God desires for us to become more like Him, which includes forgiving those who wrong us.
3. “Put your trust in the LORD.” Trust that God knows what is best and can make all things right. Instead of seeking revenge, we are better served by taking the issue to God and having faith in Him to rightfully deal with the situation. “Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord. Therefore ‘if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.’ Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:19-21). As Christians, we must practice faith by allowing God to handle bad situations and not allowing ourselves to be consumed by anger.

Just as Christ forgave those who scourged and crucified Him (Luke 23:34), we also must forgive those who hurt us. Anger is a strong emotion and can hinder our growth as Christians. When angry, let’s take time to meditate on God’s will, serve others around us and put our ultimate trust in God. He knows what is best for us and can handle all situations.

For further guidance on how to deal with anger issues, read What Does the Bible Say About Anger?

Gabriella Kroska is currently a senior in high school taking dual-credit college courses at St. Cloud State University. She will graduate next year with her high school diploma and an Associate’s degree. She attends the Twin Cities, Minnesota congregation of the Church of God, a Worldwide Association.